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Christina, thanks for this great post. I know that we often rush to do for our kids, but I also know that if you make it your intention for the next few weeks to change your tact and "ask" your kids for their input and job-share with them, that this will be a habit that catches on quickly because your children will be happy that you're not imposing your goals on them, but rather are interested and curious about theirs.
Report ViolationThese are issues that are near and dear to my heart and the subject of my new book, Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a Lifetime of Resilience, Flexibility and Happiness. I offer many positive scripts of what to say when our kids are struggling with a bad day, a loss, a disappointment, or are just being hard on themselves because they are negative by nature. If you're interested in reading an excerpt, please check out www.freeingyourchild.com.
Tamar Chansky, Ph.D.